Let’s face it, not all relationships are healthy. Some relationships are unavoidable professionally, whereas others with family can be navigated through more deliberately.
If you have a control freak in your life, here are some quick secrets for keeping your sanity and breaking the control freak’s stranglehold on you.
1. Be calm and don’t react.
The control freak usually thrives on tension, drama, and creating urgent scenarios to throw you in a state of emotional chaos. This is where they get the upper hand and make themself needed.
Be calm, quiet, and don’t react. Listen and move slowly on purpose…as you do you may further aggravate the control freak. Good! What is in their heart will eventually come out of their mouth, revealing their true motivation and intent.
2. Listen to the words not the emotion.
When you hear a control freak speak, listen to their words not their emotion. Gauge the intelligence and validity of what they are saying. If there is no credibility or validity behind what they are saying, drop it and move on. Often control freaks are illogical and given to panic. They live in a world of fear, suspicion and accusation.
Control freaks feed on drama. Don’t play into it. Listen to their words and locate where they are (or perceive themselves to be). Many control freaks (perhaps most) are painfully clueless and not self-aware.
Be aware of who you are dealing with.
3. Intelligently say no and walk away.
When control freaks true colors are revealed and you see their drama for what it is, drop the game(s) on the spot and move on. If the control freak cannot recognize the error of their ways, move on without explaining to them why you are abandoning them.
People are either assets or liabilities. Until a control freak discovers the error of their ways, they shall continue to irritate and alienate people. Guard your heart and don’t feel bad for protecting your time and life. Don’t let control freaks waste your time and divert your focus.
www.PaulFDavis.com worldwide speaker and author of Healthy Relationships
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